At this point I have told my close friends and my close family. All the feedback has been purely positive and I’m happy for that. I asked Jeremy about writing this blog in an unidentifying manner. He told me he doesn’t mind if its not anonymous. This is good. It tells me that he is… Read More WHO TO TELL AND WHEN?
This blog entry is purely informational. I don’t profess to know everything about this topic but I am going to explain it in my words. Gender identity is what your mind thinks you are. For most people, this is pretty easy. You are biologically female and your mind thinks you are female and vice versa… Read More GENDER IDENTITY VS SEXUAL ORIENTATION
So I no longer have a gay daughter, I have a transgender son. This opens a whole new set of questions. Was he ever gay? What about his relationship with his wife? Is he now going to be rejected by his lesbian community? I am still struggling with answers to these questions. I guess he… Read More GAY?
So far, I have referred to Jaime as my daughter and have used female pronouns – she/her. It’s time for me to change. Jaime is now Jeremy and he is my son. The way I understand it is that he has always been male. I can see it now in hindsight. He has decided that… Read More JAIME/JEREMY — SHE/HE
As I’m doing my research, I read horror stories. Transgender people getting beat up, even killed, because of who they are. I see graphic photos of surgeries. I am terrified. I was always a bit scared when Jaime came out as gay. She was subjecting herself to haters. People who were so ignorant that they… Read More FEARS
OK, breathe in, breathe out. I am the type of person who needs to know everything. I am the web searching queen. Google Transgender. Wow, whole new world. Transgender Man/Woman Transsexual Top Surgery Bottom Surgery Testosterone Gender Identity FTM (female to male) MTF (male to female) The list goes on. I spend the next couple… Read More NEW VOCABULARY
Jaime was born in 1982. “It’s a girl” We are thrilled. We have a boy and a girl. Millionaire’s family. About the age of 6 she no longer wants to wear dresses. That’s ok, she’s a bit of a tomboy. Never really interested in boys. Always dressed kind of masculine. I see all of this… Read More HISTORY
Text comes in. Her: You around on Sunday? Me: Yup. Her: Wanna hang out? Me: Absolutely 🙂 My heart sings. I don’t hear from my daughter all that much. Don’t get me wrong we love each other and are really quite close but reality is we don’t knock down each other’s door so when she… Read More DISCOVERY