So far, I have referred to Jaime as my daughter and have used female pronouns – she/her. It’s time for me to change. Jaime is now Jeremy and he is my son.
The way I understand it is that he has always been male. I can see it now in hindsight. He has decided that now is the time to make his body align with his gender identity so the world sees him and treats him the way he sees himself. Makes sense to me.
I will admit that I was upset about him changing the name I gave him. (Really? That’s what you were upset about?) Yeah, really. His Dad and I thought long and hard about the name we bestowed upon him. His middle name was Lynn (after me). This means he won’t be named after me anymore. We really haven’t talked about this (there has been so much to talk about). I think it is about making a brand new start in his new skin. All things past have to be let go. Am I still upset about it? A little. Do I love him any less? Absolutely not. Is he still the child I have known and loved for all of his life? Yes.
Onward and upward. Jaime Lynn is now Jeremy Landon and I will do the best I can to get the name and pronouns right from here on in. I will make slip ups — I’m human and I’ve been using the female pronouns for 34 years. However, I will keep trying till I get it right. My research tells me that it gets easier over time.